Its so easy to pass judgement on others when you can’t relate. We make assumptions and set rules or boundaries on things and people before we take a step back and put ourselves in the opposite shoes. We forget that we are all humans, we make mistakes, we have emotions and past events that have pushed and shaped us into what we are today which has influence on how we react in certain situations. We make decisions on impulse, we are imperfect, we shut down and sometimes to a point where we feel we can’t open up again.
You may not always like someones decisions or actions in life, you don’t need to agree, you don’t even necessarily have to accept them. It is however your responsibility to react appropriately. We all have people in our lives we can’t just throw away because they didn’t make the move we wanted them to, if we did there wouldn’t be anyone left. At some point, everyone in your life will disappoint you in someway. We have to sometimes take ourselves out of the equation. Look at things from a different angle, maybe not even theirs, maybe a third party.
It isn’t easy to put your emotions aside and see something from someone else’s eyes. I consider myself to be someone who doesn’t live in a world that is black and white. I have come to terms with the fact that there are many, many gray areas. People are complex, unpredictable, emotional beings. How can we expect life to just be black and white? Life isn’t fair, it NEVER will be! Unfortunately we have to accept that.
We can be our own worst enemies at times, putting ourselves in situations to hold onto hate and feelings far longer than we should. So, it didn’t work out how you wanted it to; don’t let yourself dwell on things we cannot change. It takes FAR more energy to remain angry than to deal with what has gone on and find the best solution you can deal with. You can’t punish the world for things not going in your favor, we ALL have had to accept things we just never thought possible but here we are. Next, stand back up on your feet and understand that you now must find a way to move forward.
As we get older we have more responsibilities and some of us have little people who depend on us to make the best decisions we can for them. They depend on us to not make harmful emotional decisions that will hurt them later on even if YOU selfishly feel like that is what will make YOU happy in this moment. YOU have to remove your emotional impulse and think of them. At first it can be very hard to make mature, rational decisions when emotions are running high. Take a minute, but just a minute and push yourself to do the right thing.
But I Forgive You
Jenna
But I Forgive you 